Tips To A Better Sex Life

Up until this point, you may have been using contraceptives during sex to avoid pregnancy. Now that you want a baby, you and your partner may be confused as to why you are not pregnant immediately upon ceasing to use contraceptives. Although thousands of people every year consult infertility experts, there are a few things you can try before throwing in the towel or calling an expert.

1. Work With Your Cycle Of Ovulation

Timing is everything, and this couldn't be more true for getting pregnant. You will want to time your lovemaking activities in tune with her ovulation cycle. Most women have an ovulation cycle that lasts twenty eight to thirty days. Their most fertile time is halfway through at fourteen or fifteen days into their cycle.

2. The Window Of 72 Hours

One of the primary reasons why you might not have become pregnant is because you are having sex at the wrong time. There is only a 72 hour window of opportunity for the egg to remain fertile. You and your partner should try to have a baby as close to the time of ovulation as possible, but if your schedule does not allow you can try to have a baby up to 72 hours before this time.

3. Tips For Getting Pregnant

- Both men and women should eat protein rich foods such as meat and fish
- Avoid drinking heavily
- Exercise regularly
- Men should avoid hot showers baths
- Men should avoid wearing tight underwear

4. Advice For Conceiving A Baby

Don't try to have sex as much as possible, this will lower the sperm count and actually make it harder for the woman to become pregnant. Instead, try for a baby every - days. In particular, have sex one or two hours before ovulation so the sperm is already waiting for the egg to arrive. When having sex, use the missionary position so gravity will help the sperm to pool along the wall of the uterus. After having sex the woman can elevate her waist and legs at a 25 degree angle for half an hour to continue this natural process. This can significantly increase your chances of getting pregnant.

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5. Taking Folic Acid Is Essential

If you do not get enough folic acid in your diet during pregnancy and even prior to becoming pregnant your baby could be born with horrible brain damage, spine defects, or other deformities. Anyone who has any possibility of becoming pregnant needs to take the recommended mg of folic acid per day.

By Stephen White

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Has your sex life been a bit neglected lately? Its not like you don't care but well, it's just finding the time and energy. It seems impossible some days because there's work and cleaning and working out and grocery shopping and cooking dinner, laundry, kids, family commitments, friends, ironing! When you do get horizontal you pass out within minutes. Or you're not in the mood. Or you just can't be bothered. Soon enough a month has passed and you can't remember the last time you had sex. And when was the last time you kissed your partner and I mean really kissed them, not just a polite peck?

Or maybe you've just fallen into a rut. You have sex in the same place at roughly the same time each week and do the same things. Routine is good for things like brushing your teeth but it shouldn't come into your sex life when variety and excitement are crucial elements in making it fulfilling.
If this sounds like you and you want to kickstart your sex life back into well, life, then read on.

1.Be spontaneous

The element of surprise can be very seductive. Take a shower together, surprise your partner with a long passionate kiss when they are expecting to just graze lips, buy some new lingerie and wear it.

2.Get healthy

Eating well and regular exercise put you in better touch with your body and that inner healthy glow not only makes you look more attractive but gives you heaps of energy and makes you feel more vibrant and alive.

3.Be affectionate

If you haven't had sex for awhile then it may be better to build up slowly to get back into the groove. Instead of trying to go from a standing start to racing speed, ease your way back into the physical by touching when you can and by being considerate with each other. Touch when you talk. Stop to kiss when you walk past each other in the hallway. Trail your finger along their shoulder as they sit reading a magazine. Snuggle on the couch in front of your favorite movie.

4.Be sensual

Give your partner a peppermint foot bath when they get home from a busy day. Massage their hands, scalp, back - wherever takes your fancy (if you don't know how to massage, don't think about it, just do what feels good). Or try a lighter touch by using a feather or silk scarf to trail along the length of your partner.

5.Be encouraging when your partner does something you like

Even if you've been together a long time your partner doesn't always know what you like and even if they do it doesn't hurt to tell them once in awhile. Say what you like and why you like it, if they have more information you never know what they may come up with to please you.

6.Read your partner an erotic bedtime story

The mind is crucial in any attempt to resuscitate your sex life. It needs to be turned on first and the body will follow. There is some great erotic fiction around or you could try Nancy Friday for stories about other people's sexual fantasies.

7.Have fun

When was the last time you laughed together? Put on your favourite track and dance. Or buy the music that was popular when you first got together and play that for a trip down memory lane over dinner. Take a midnight dip.

8.Write a sexy letter

If you can't tell your partner what you really want them to do to you, then writing it down is a great alternative. It lets you be as specific as you like without feeling like your face is going to turn tomato red and gives your partner time to process what you've said and get into the mood (if you need help putting your letter together try visiting www.loveyouletters.com for easy-to-us love templates).

9.Experiment

Learn a new technique together. Try a romantic weekend away. Or you could try a sex toy from one of the many on offer. If you always have sex lying down then try standing or sitting. If you're always on top then try switching things around.

10.Focus on the now

When you do get down to it, it is crucial that you focus on exactly what it is you are doing. To do this you must stop the chatter within your own head. Don't worry that you forgot to pick up the drycleaning, or how you need to call your mother about her birthday, or the fact that you're out of cereal. Leave all that stuff to later. Much later. Chances are it won't seem nearly so important once you're done.

By Sarah Brindisi http://www.esensualexpress.com/

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A common mistake among men is to approach sex from a technical perspective. Men often see sex tips in the same way they see advice for approaching a technical problem. They want to know technical facts and see diagrams, know what to press and how to press it. Women don't have a technical solution! Women have emotional solutions.

The brain is the most powerful sex organ in the body and controls everything in sex. If you don't stimulate her mind during sex you won't be stimulating anything. Control the mind and you control the body. So understand her mind and you control her body too.

The mind is so powerful that it can cause arousal and then orgasm without any physical form of stimulation at all. Science has proved that sex and indeed orgasm occurs mainly in the brain and not in the body.

Have you ever wondered why it is than women who have sex toys and vibrators still have sex for pleasure with men? The simple answer is that sex toys don't provide the emotional psychological stimulation that a man does. A sex toy doesn't stimulate her mind in the way you can.

Learning technical sexual techniques are very useful. But if you don't arouse her through emotional stimulation and her mind she won't be fully satisfied. So you can learn all the sexual techniques in the world and still never please her.

What stimulates the mind are what I call arousal triggers. Arousal triggers are the way you act around her, your personality, the way you touch her, what you say to her, the way you say it, sensual massage and even the way you could smell are all examples of what could be arousal triggers that stimulate her mind.

So what are the sex secrets for men? Out of all of them the number one sex secret is just some good old fashioned simple communication! Unfortunately many relationships have poor communication when it comes to sexual needs or preferences. This leads to a lot of dissatisfaction and dysfunction in the relationship. Lack of communication is the number one cause of relationship and sexual problems.

The absence of communication is a leading contributor to women playing away from home. Women sometimes turn to other relationships to meet their physical and emotional needs if they are not met in their current relationship.

There would be no need or desire for people to be unfaithful if both parties would simply be honest, communicating their needs, desires and preferences.

Your partner could already be the woman you need if you teach her how to satisfy you, telling her what you want and need.

Communication with your woman is probably the most important factor for not only a satisfying sexual relationship but for a relationship in general.

Many men misjudge their partners by some how believing they can read minds or that they should instinctively know how to please them. This is a very deadly belief for not only the sex, but also the relationship as a whole.

We are all different and have unique sexual desires and needs. When you're in a relationship with a woman it takes time to learn what it is she wants.

Women have a core set of desires that are common to most women and there are also specific sexual needs. Your new lover will probably have different specific needs to your previous lovers. In a long term relationship you need to continue to communicate so you can continually explore and discover one another's bodies, needs and desires because needs' can change over time.

It's important to let your woman know what you need and it's equally important to be interested in what she needs as well.

For success it is key for both you and your partner to take responsibility for communicating your needs. It may sound harsh but if you have a woman who is not willing to learn and not interested in satisfying you, then should you consider ending the relationship. I call this kind of woman a project woman. You have to decide if she is worth your time and effort to fix her issues. I.e. she becomes more of a project than a relationship. Getting your sexual needs met by a woman is just as important as any other need in the relationship.

Some sex tips and advice on communication; Always speak openly, directly and honestly to her. Always be specific and detailed with her. Show her how much pressure, how much speed and timing that you need. Tell your woman where, when and how to touch you. Discuss what scenarios, sex techniques and positions you like. Let her know what you like to hear and when and how she should say it. Talk about anything and everything from oral sex techniques to penis length from safer sex to the g spot orgasm. Share your fantasies, desires and sexual fetishes. Let her know when something isn't working and also let her know when it is working well. You must also make sure she does the exact same in return to you.

Also remember it's about what you both want. Some guys get hung up on pleasing their woman and forget that their partner also enjoys pleasing them too. And some guys only care about their own satisfaction. There should be a balance of give and take in each partners sexual requests.

For many men who've attended our live "Sexual Mastery for Men" workshops this type and level of communication is something very new to them. Many men are surprised at what is acceptable to say and speak to their partners about. It can and probably will feel uncomfortable at first talking like this with your woman, but do it anyway!

Communication gets easier with time. Sharing your desires increases intimacy, enhances your sexual satisfaction and decreases the risk of unfaithfulness. Your relationship as a whole will be better, more fulfilling and exciting.

By Nathan X http://www.masteryoursexlife.com/

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Sex life? What sex life? You're a parent and life is so busy that you barely have time to think about your own needs, let alone do anything about meeting them. It can seem like your own needs don't matter, it's the children that have top priority and you have to do whatever it takes to look after them. Don't be fooled, your needs are important and neglecting them isn't good for anyone, not you, not your partner and definitely not your children. Sure you can't do all the things you did before children, life has changed and pleasure comes in different ways. But you are still an adult with adult needs and for you to feel fulfilled they need to be met.

So how do you find time and energy for sex when there are so many other things demanding your attention? It takes a bit more planning and effort than in the past but you need to tell yourself that it can happen and it is definitely worth it.

What if you don't want anyone touching you after having children crawling all over you all day? Some people have a quotient for the amount of physical contact they need and can comfortably accommodate in a day. But if you think about it children touch you differently to how your partner touches you and for the most part, it's all take.

So how do you have more sex? Okay, how do you have any sex?

1. Make it a priority and it will happen. Feeding the children quickly becomes a priority when you have nagging children at your feet. Make your desires like that and don't let up until you have got what you need.

2. Find a time that works. It may be early in the morning before the children wake up, it may be immediately after they've gone to bed ignoring the dishes and the washing and cleaning up, it may be during the day while the kids are watching a video. You have to make time for each other.

3. Do some things that make you think about sex. It can be hard to switch your brain from babyland to sex so you may need a little help. Watch a sexy movie, read erotic fiction together, write your partner a sexy note, think back to a time when you had great sex (c'mon you can do that, it can't be that long, surely, you have children afterall!), relive how good it felt.

4. Take a shower together. There is something about getting naked and wet together that can be very erotic.

5. Expect interruptions and don't be put off. OK you start kissing and you hear a baby cry. You try to ignore it but you can't. So you go off and tend to them and then think the moment is gone. But it isn't. And if it is then get it back by viewing the interruption as a diversion which has increased your appetite for sex not soured it.

6. Don't wait until you get into bed to initiate sex. When you've been together awhile it's easy to fall into habits, like falling into a deep sleep as soon as your head touches the pillow, and sometimes it's those habits that you need to break in order to kick start your sex life. Sex can happen anywhere so make use of the spaces you have.

7. And the most important thing you need to do - don't give up! You can find a way to make it happen. Know that your needs are important and you will function better when they've been met.

By Sarah Brindisi http://www.isnare.com/?aid=53659&ca=Sexuality

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