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Update on Haiti Relief Effort - Help for Orphans International

2010-02-06T04:09:00.000-08:00

Dear Friends and New Friends,

This is my personal update that I want to share with you today. If you didn't read my email from 2 days ago it is at the bottom of this one.

Help for Orphans International has a volunteer named Jonathan on the ground in Haiti right now. He is a pilot, personally using his own plane. I hear directly from Jonathan everyday.

He said there is a BIG need for morphine here in the hospitals (or at least oral narcotics). They are doing amputations without it. That might be the single most important item to distribute now. Apparently there are quantities in Port Au Prince but the army has taken over and distribution is very slow. Pass the word.

As I mentioned before, Jonathan has this knowledge because he has the only small aircraft on the ground in Haiti right now, which is shuttling in supplies and help. Due to his tireless efforts he has been able to bring medical personnel, supplies, food, water and medication directly to the people who need it most. It is because of the money we raise that enables him to continue to pay for fuel and supplies.

I want you to think about this for a minute. Can you imagine if your child, your brother, or your grandchild was in severe pain for days on end, with no medical care? Can you imagine your child losing ALL the family they have ever known and left to fend for themselves on the streets, surrounded by decomposing bodies? This is the situation for so many in Haiti.

These children need our help. I realize I may be sounding very dramatic here but this is the honest truth. I need every one of you to understand and pass on how severely help is needed there. Most of us, if not all, take for granted the food and water we have at our disposal. So many lives are being lost in Haiti – today - because they are lacking the simple essentials.

So, please, give whatever you can. A few dollars from everyone reading this will make a huge difference. Give up the Starbucks for just one week.

Text "support orphans" to 20222 to give $5 on your cell bill.

To make a larger contribution go to www.helpfororphans.org and click “Donate now" and most of all PLEASE spread the word to EVERYONE you know!

See our Press release released early this morning: http://www.prweb.com/releases/2010/01/prweb3505184.htm

Thank you again from the bottom of my heart!!

Love,

Josie Dobin
917.704.2131 mobile
Help for Orphans International
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How To Help Haiti

2010-02-03T04:07:00.000-08:00

Hi,

I am urging you to please read this message and respond accordingly and then to please forward this on to all your contacts.

As you may know, I am fortunate to be working for Help for Orphans International, a charity founded by Sarah Ehrlich four years ago. She has done a lot of work helping orphans in Kenya and is now solely focused on helping the orphans affected by the earthquake in Haiti.

I don't like to spread bad news but we have a volunteer from our organization who's been on the ground there since over a week ago. Words cannot describe the devastation that he has described to me. Imagine a little child losing ALL their family, wounded, no place to live and with little food/water. This is TRULY the situation.

Sarah and myself are going to Haiti in the next few days to raise awareness and to strategize HOW we are most effectively going to help. We will also be purchasing food/formula/diapers in the Dominican Republic to bring to the most hard hit areas.

Our volunteer there named Jonathan flew his 4 seater aircraft 2000 miles from Sag Harbor, NY and is shuttling back and forth between neighboring areas bringing supplies and medical personnel to the most desperate areas. Today he texted me that he was enroute to bring saws and morphine to a medical unit there.

The only way we can keep him doing this is to continue to send him funds.

Do NOT think that they have ENOUGH help because they don't. What we are doing IS making a difference! Jonathan says that he has the only small aircraft shuttling that he has seen. Additionally, because his aircraft is so small he has been cleared to land at Port au Prince airport.

We can NOT continue to do what we're doing without more donations! There's just NO way! Sadly, the surrounding areas have taken advantage of this tragedy and the cost of fuel and food etc.. has skyrocketed! All your donations are 100% tax deductible and you can know that we are actually USING your money RIGHT NOW to make a difference! Anything helps!

Here's how to donate:

1. Click this now Help For Orphans, then select "donate now" on the top left navigation.

2. Text 20222 from you cell phone and type "support orphans" and you will be charged $5 on your next cell phone bill.

3. Call me at 917.704.2131.

More about us:

Help For Orphans

Thank you from the bottom of my heart. If you would like to be kept updated PLEASE email me directly and I will add you to our list!

Love,

Josie Dobin

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Tonight: Trade Secrets of a Multi-Million Dollar Guru

2010-01-05T17:48:00.000-08:00

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2010-01-01T20:07:00.000-08:00

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2009-12-30T07:58:00.000-08:00

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Aide: Baucus nominated girlfriend for US attorney

2009-12-07T07:16:00.000-08:00

Senate Finance Committee Chairman Max Baucus was romantically involved with a former staffer when he recommended her earlier this year to become the next U.S. attorney for Montana, a spokesman said.

The Montana Democrat and his former state office director Melodee Hanes began their relationship in the summer of 2008 after Baucus separated from his wife, Ty Matsdorf told The Associated Press late Friday.

Baucus nominated Hanes for the U.S. attorney post in March. But she later withdrew, saying she had been presented with other opportunities she couldn't pass up.

The Senate leader who's been a major proponent of Democratic health care legislation had submitted six names to a third-party reviewer, who whittled those to Hanes and two others.

Matsdorf said the senator sent the three names to the White House with no ranking to select a nominee.

Matsdorf said Baucus' relationship with his girlfriend had nothing to do with his decision.

"Senator Baucus recommended each of the three candidates based solely on qualifications, and merit, knowing whichever one the White House selected would serve Montana well," Matsdorf said.

The spokesman said Baucus and Hanes decided during the nomination process that she should withdraw her name because the couple wanted to live together in Washington, which they later did.

Matsdorf declined to say why the senator was just now disclosing the circumstances surrounding the nomination.

Baucus and his ex-wife Wanda announced last April that they planned to divorce after 25 years of marriage, his second. In a joint statement, they said they had "parted ways amicably and with mutual respect."

Hanes started working for Baucus in 2002 and was his state director before leaving his office earlier this year for a position in the U.S. Department of Justice.

"Mel is supremely qualified and she got to her current position based solely on her merit," Matsdorf said.

President Barack Obama eventually nominated Helena attorney Michael Cotter for the U.S. attorney post, which supervises prosecutors of all federal crimes committed in Montana and the state's seven Indian reservations. Cotter is awaiting confirmation.

Word of Hanes' nomination follows other recent disclosures of romantic liaisons by political leaders, including South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford, Sen. John Ensign, R-Nev., and two-time Democratic presidential hopeful John Edwards.

Sanford faces a possible impeachment following his affair with a woman in Argentina. Ensign, who has acknowledged in June to having an affair with a former member of his campaign staff, has made it clear he intends to serve out his second term. Edwards' political career was damaged when he acknowledged last year he had an affair with a videographer in 2006. The admission came just months after Edwards dropped his second presidential bid.

Baucus was elected to the Montana House in 1973 and to the U.S. House in 1974 and 1976. He was elected to the U.S. Senate in 1978 at age 36, and his current term runs until 2014.

The senator has played increasingly visible roles in Congress, sometimes willing to buck his Democratic Party on certain issues. He seems to take the position that the state that sent him to the Senate for five terms is fundamentally conservative and its voters want someone willing to vote outside the party line.

Most recently Baucus has been at the center of an effort to move sweeping health care legislation through the Senate with a bill aimed at meeting Obama's goal of overhauling the nation's health care system to cover 48 million uninsured Americans.

On Friday, Baucus went against his party and backed a Republican effort to eliminate a long-term care insurance program to help seniors and the disabled. Republicans argued that the new plan would be a drain on the federal budget.

The Democrat has also been in the middle of other congressional battles: He played a key role in 2003 legislation adding a prescription-drug benefit to the Medicare program and enactment of President George W. Bush's tax cuts in 2001.

(This version CORRECTS that Edwards dropped out of the presidential race before acknowledging the affair).

By THOMAS PEIPERT, Associated Press Writer

Web frenzy over T-shirt

2009-05-28T01:51:00.000-07:00

Something strange happened this week in Amazon.com's apparel section.

For a day or two, a black T-shirt featuring an image of three wolves baying at a full moon claimed the top slot at the online store's clothing bestseller list,, beating out the usual, unremarkable mix of Levi's 505 regular-fit jeans, Crocs clogs and Adidas running shoes.

Three Wolf Moon T-Shirt, Available in Various Sizes

And really, why wouldn't you buy the shirt, which is priced from $7.65 to $17.93, depending on your size? Just read the long and growing list of customer testimonials promising earth-shattering experiences or psychedelic vision quests upon purchase.

"I bought this shirt and instantly old girlfriends started calling me again," wrote one reviewer."My doctor says the cancer has gone into remission," wrote another. "

Thanks for changing my life!"The shirt's page at Amazon.com had quietly existed for years without much comment, but after a snarky link from CollegeHumor.com, the "Three Wolf Moon" shirt suddenly sprouted hundreds of five-star ratings.

Reviewers have dreamed up epics about its powers, weaving fantasies involving everything from the Large Hadron Collider in Switzerland to the pop group Duran Duran.

As the joke caught on and got passed around the Web, Photoshopped spoofs of the shirt started appearing online -- featuring corgi puppies, spiders or haddock instead of the now-famous wolves.

CollegeHumor.com, a comedy site started in 1999 by a couple of high school friends who grew up together in Timonium, Md., also claimed victory this week for rigging an online poll run by the state of Nebraska to select a new license-plate design.

The site urged its readers to vote for what it deemed the most boring design available to Nebraska drivers. That gray-and-white plate won.Officials in Nebraska said they monitored Web traffic to screen out visitors coming directly from the humor site, but CollegeHumor.com was still, credibly, claiming the joke a success this week.

"Together we pranked the entire automobile-owning population of Nebraska," wrote a CollegeHumor.com editor, in a Wednesday posting. "Congratulations."

This type of online rabble-rousing appears to be catching on more than ever over the past year, said Tim Hwang, the organizer of ROFLCon, a convention dedicated to celebrating Internet memes.

After all, another Web-based prank crossed over into the real world just last month when a 21-year-old college student, known by the online moniker "m00t," sailed to the top of Time's "most influential person" list in an online poll, beating out the likes of President Obama and Oprah Winfrey.

Gathering nearly 17 million votes, the world's "most influential" person is the founder of another jokey Web culture site, 4chan.org, whose proprietor is known offline by the name Christopher Poole. If you don't get why the shirt, and its reviews, are so funny, don't worry.

CollegeHumor.com co-founder Josh Abramson said it's a case where the shirt is so uncool that it's cool."A lot of things that become popular on the Web are based around just being ironic and being an inside joke," Abramson said.

"This resonates with a geeky, hip crowd that is very Web-savvy. When something resonates with that circle, crazy things can happen."Abramson said his team had considered licensing the wolf shirt for sale.

CollegeHumor.com, which had 7 million unique Web visitors last month, also has an online store that sells T-shirts with ironic catchphrases and designs, called BustedTees.com. But it appears that the site may have been a bit slow to catch on to its own meme.

"We're kicking ourselves that we didn't," he said.The New Hampshire company that makes the "Three Wolf Moon" shirt said that it doesn't generally mind being the butt of this joke."You have to be able to laugh at yourself," said Michael McGloin, a partner and art director at the Mountain, who added that he finds some of the reviews to be "freaking hilarious."

The company certainly doesn't mind the shirt's recent uptick in sales: "Three Wolf Moon" is sold out, and the Mountain has started printing up a fresh batch.

It seems that the wolf theme was growing in popularity even before the Internet hipsters descended, McGloin said."Wolf shirts are super hot right now," he said. "It's the year of the wolf, I guess."

Click now to Three Wolf Moon T-Shirt, Available in Various Sizes

By Mike Musgrove, Washington Post Staff Writer

The Truth About Why Men Cheat

2009-05-18T03:08:00.000-07:00

Counselor M. Gary Neuman surveyed 200 cheating and noncheating husbands to get at the real reasons behind men's infidelity.

What makes men cheat? Marriage counselor M. Gary Neuman dug through past research on male infidelity and found that most answers came from the wife's point of view. "Wouldn't it make more sense to ask the guys?" he thought.

So for his new book, "The Truth About Cheating," Neuman surveyed 200 cheating and noncheating husbands to get at the real reasons behind men's infidelity -- including what cheating men say could have prevented them from straying. Here, some of his findings:

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48% of men rated emotional dissatisfaction as the primary reason they cheated.

So much for the myth that for men, cheating is all about physical intimacy: Only 8 percent of men said that physical dissatisfaction was the main factor in their infidelity. "Our culture tells us that all men need to be happy is to have physical intimacy with someone," Neuman says. "But men are emotionally driven beings too. They want their wives to show them that they're appreciated, and they want women to understand how hard they're trying to get things right."

The problem is that men are less likely than women to express these feelings, so you won't always know when your guy is in need of a little affirmation.

"Most men consider it unmanly to ask for a pat on the back, which is why their emotional needs are often overlooked," Neuman says. "But you can create a marital culture of appreciation and thoughtfulness -- and once you set the tone, he's likely to match it."

66% of cheating men report feeling guilt during the affair.

The implications are a little scary: It isn't just uncaring jerks who cheat. In fact, 68 percent of cheaters never dreamed they'd be unfaithful, and almost all of them wished they hadn't done it, Neuman says.

Clearly, guilt isn't enough to stop a man from cheating. "Men are good at compartmentalizing feelings," Neuman explains. "They can hold on to their emotions and deal with them later."

So even if your partner swears he would never cheat, don't assume it can't happen. It's important for both of you to take steps toward creating the relationship you want.

77% of cheating men have a good friend who cheated.

Hanging around friends who stray makes cheating seem normal and legitimizes it as a possibility. The message he's subconsciously telling himself: "My friend is a good guy who happens to be cheating on his wife. I guess even the best of us do it."

You can't simply ban your husband from hanging out with Mr. Wandering Eyes, Neuman says, but you can request that they spend their time together in an environment that offers less temptation, like at a sporting event or a restaurant for lunch rather than at a bar or club.

Another strategy: Build your social circle around happily married couples that share your values -- it'll create an environment that supports marriage.

40% of cheating men met the other woman at work.

"Oftentimes the woman he cheats with at the office is someone who praises him, looks up to him, and compliments his efforts," Neuman says. "That's another reason why it's so critical that he feel valued at home."

Luckily, there's a clear warning sign that your husband is getting a little too cozy with a colleague: If he praises or mentions the name of a female coworker more than he would a male counterpart, your antennae should go up -- and it's time for the two of you to set boundaries about what is and isn't okay at work, Neuman says.

Is it acceptable for him to work late if it's only him and her? Can they travel together to conferences? Have dinners out to discuss a project? Ask him what he'd feel comfortable with you doing with a male colleague.

Only 12% of cheating men said their mistress was more physically attractive than their wife.
In other words, a man doesn't stray because he thinks he'll get lucky with a better-looking body."

In most cases, he's cheating to fill an emotional void

In most cases, he's cheating to fill an emotional void," Neuman says. "He feels a connection with the other woman, and physical intimacy comes along for the ride."

If you're worried about infidelity, focus on making your relationship more loving and connected, not on getting your body just right or mastering how to please him physically.

(But know that physical intimacy does matter -- it's one of the key ways your guy expresses his love and feels close to you, so be sure to keep it a priority.)

Only 6% of cheating men had physical intimacy with a woman after meeting her that same day or night.

Actually, 73 percent of men got to know the other woman for more than a month before they cheated. This means that you may have time to see the warning signs before infidelity occurs -- you might even see it coming before he does.

Keep an eye out for these common signals: He spends more time away from home, stops asking for physical intimacy, picks fights more frequently, or avoids your calls. Your gut reaction may be to confront him, but most men will deny even thinking about cheating, especially if nothing physical has occurred yet.

Instead, Neuman suggests, take charge of what you can control -- your own behavior -- and take the lead in bringing your relationship to a better place. Don't hesitate to show your appreciation for him, prioritize time together, and initiate affection more. Give him a reason to keep you at the front of his mind, Neuman says.

And be open about how you feel about what's going on between the two of you (again, without mentioning any third parties).

Try "I think we've started to lose something important in our relationship, and I don't want it to disappear." In the meantime, commit to keeping tabs on your relationship and doing what it takes to keep it working for you.

By Nicole Yorio from Redbook

5 Signs Of A Cheating Boyfriend

2009-05-15T08:13:00.000-07:00

Are you a teenager who is in a serious relationship? If you are, there may come a point in time when you think that your boyfriend is cheating on you. As often as you may hear an adult say "you are young,you will find love again," you may still want to have concrete proof that your boyfriend is cheating on you. After all, if love is what you feel, you may be unsure about ending the relationship.

Although getting concrete proof that shows that your boyfriend is cheating on you can be difficult to do, there are still a number of signs that you will want to look for. These signs, five of which are outlined below, can make it easier for you to determine whether or not your teenage boyfriend is cheating on you.

1 - He Stops Hanging Out With You

If your boyfriend stops hanging out with you or if he stops inviting you to parties or social outings with friends, there is a good chance that he is cheating on you. As for why you may no longer be invited to social events with him, he is likely worried that his friends will talk. Because, chances are his close friends already know that he is cheating on you. In fact, do his friends treat you any differently?

2 - He Has Changed His Appearance

Has your boyfriend starting changing his appearance? Has he started taking better care of himself? At the high school level, a big change in appearance should include hairstyles or clothes. Chances are if your boyfriend has undergone a sudden appearance change, there is someone who he is trying to impress. Unfortunately, you may not be that someone.

3 - A Rude Attitude

Since many cheaters feel guilty about their actions, they often try to lessen that guilt. One of the many ways that a boyfriend does this is by being rude to you. He may accuse you of cheating on him or he may regularly find even the smallest reasons for picking an argument. This is because some cheaters justify their behavior by claiming that their girlfriends deserved to be cheated on.

4 - You Can't Get In Touch With Him

Many boyfriends and girlfriends communicate through cell phone calls, text messages, and emails. If this is how you and your boyfriend communicated in the past, have you suddenly noticed a change? If you find it harder to get hold of your boyfriend, he might be cheating on you. After all, why would he always answer your phone calls, text messages, or emails before, but not now?

5 - You Are Hearing Rumors

If one thing is for sure it is that high school students like to gossip. As previously stated, your boyfriends' friends likely already know that he is cheating on you. They may talk to their other friends or their own girlfriends. This is likely to start rumors. Although not all rumors you hear at school are true, you may want to listen carefully.

The above mentioned signs are just a few of the many that your boyfriend may be cheating on you. If you do find out that your boyfriend is cheating on you, it may be a wise idea to break off the relationship. If you are having sex with your boyfriend, his cheating ways could put you at risk for developing harmful and painful sexually transmitted diseases.

5 Signs Of A Cheating Girlfriend

2009-05-12T08:12:00.000-07:00

Are you a teenage boy who is in a serious relationship? If you are do you believe that your girlfriend is cheating on you? If you do, you may want to proof. After all, the last thing that you want to do is be associated with a girl who likes to cheat and possibly sleep around. For that reason, once suspicion has arose, many boyfriends want to know if their girlfriends are really cheating on them.

One of the best ways to tell if your girlfriend is cheating on you is to keep your eyes and ears open at all times. Did you know that many of the women or even girls who cheat make many mistakes along the way? These mistakes are signs that you should be able to pick up on, but you must know what to look for. To help get you started, five signs that your girlfriend may be cheating on you are outlined below.

1 - If Your Girlfriend Has Changed Her Appearance

Has your girlfriend recently changed her appearance? Did she start wearing contacts instead of glasses? Has she started showing more skin at school? If so, she may be cheating on you or she may want to start cheating on you soon. This is because changes in appearance are often made to impress someone. If that person is not you, it will likely be another boy.

2 - If Your Girlfriend Stops Hanging Out With You

In the past, did you and your girlfriend spend a lot of time together? Did you enjoy hanging out with her friends, going to the movies, or attending parties together? Are those days gone? If so, your relationship may be over and your girlfriend may be cheating on you.

It is also important to examine the friends of your girlfriend. Do they act different towards you? Do you still hangout with them as a group, like as much as before? If not, your girlfriend is likely trying to keep her new romantic interest a secret. When teenage girls try to juggle multiple relationships, they often confide in their friends. Keeping you away from those friends may be a defense mechanism.

3 - A Rude Attitude

Unfortunately, many teenagers today are a lot ruder than they were in the past. Since you are a teen yourself, you may not want to hear this, but it is true. For that reason, did you know that some girls will go as far as to start a new relationship without even breaking up with their boyfriend, like you? Some will do so just to be mean. If your girlfriend flaunts her new relationship or if she is rude to you, it is time for you to move on.

4 - The Rumors Fly

At the high school level, you will hear a lot of gossip. For many teenagers, gossip is a fun way to pass the time at school. This gossip may be about you or your girlfriend. As previously stated, your girlfriend may confide in her friends about her cheating. What helps you is that girls like to talk and gossip the most. If your girlfriend is cheating on you, chances are you will hear the rumors at school. If you do hear these rumors, it might be time for you to start listening to them.

5 Signs Of A Cheating Husband

2009-05-08T08:09:00.000-07:00

Spouses having affairs seems to be a common occurrence in today’s society. In fact, they seem as if they are increasing in popularity. Although it is often difficult to associate good news with a cheating husband, there is good news. That good news is that it relatively easy for you to catch your cheating husband, especially when you know what signs to look for.

As previously stated, there are signs that you can look for to help you determine if your spouse is cheating on you. With that being said, some of these signs are so small that they often go unnoticed. To help provide you with assistance, some signs that you will want to look for to see if your husband is cheating on you are highlighted below.

1 - Changed Appearance

If your husband has changed his appearance dramatically in one way or another, it can be a sign of cheating. For example, he could change the style of clothing that he wears, either shave or decide to grow a beard, or start wearing cologne when he never had before. Another major sign to look for, in terms of changed appearance, is if your husband takes extra steps to ensure that he looks his best for work or when going out with friends.

2 - Unusual Schedule Changes

If your husband has had some uncommon and unusual changes in his schedule, this could be a sign that he is cheating. For example, does your husband normally not work overtime or stay late? If he has started doing so all of a sudden, there is a good chance that cheating may be to blame. What about common or unexpected business trips?

In addition to changes with a work schedule, your husband's friendships should also be closely examined. When your husband spends time with his friends is he gone longer than usual? Has a new friend or family member recently appeared in the picture?

3 - A Loss of Interest in Family

One of the biggest signs of a cheating husband is the loss of internet in family. Are you and your husband parents? If so, has your husband completely lost interest in doing things with you or your children? Your husband may be cheating if he would much rather spend time alone or with friends than with you or your family.

4 - Displaying Guilt

If your husband really is having an affair, he is likely to be dealing with a large amount of guilt. This guilt can typically work two ways. He could show you much more attention and give you more affection then he normally does. On the other hand, he can display anger and frustration with you. Anger often tends to give cheating husbands a reason not to feel so guilty.

5 - Unusual Phone Use

Another good sign that your husband may be cheating on you is if he acts weird when using the phone. Does your husband get quiet when you enter the room or does he hang-up the phone? Is his cell phone being used to talk to "friends," as opposed to your family phone? If so, try to get hold of your husband's cell phone to examine the call log or else checkout the phone bill. This should be done because your husband may be cheating on you.

The above mentioned signs are just a few of the many signs that your husband may be a cheater. With that said, the above mentioned signs are a few of the easiest to catch. As difficult as it can be for you to learn that your husband is cheating on you, it is important to think about the long-term situation at hand. Knowing is better than speculating. In fact, your husband and his cheating ways can put your health at risk with the transmission of sex related diseases. Also, if you are a parent, you have your children's safety and wellbeing to take into consideration.

Got A Cheating Partner? How and Why You Should Check Phone Records

2009-05-05T08:05:00.000-07:00

Do you suspect that your spouse is cheating on you? If you do, you may be looking for proof. One of the most common ways that this proof is obtained is by spying. Unfortunately, you may be uncomfortable doing so or you may not have the financial resources needed to hire a private investigator. If that is the case, there is another way that you can try to catch a cheating spouse. You can do so with their cell phone.

Many cheating spouses use their cell phones as an easy means of communication. In fact, did you know that many will use their cell phones as opposed to the family phone? Many do so because there is less of a chance that you or someone else, like one of your children, will pickup the phone instead. Since cell phones are a common means of communication for cheating spouses, you should use this to your advantage.

What it is important to know about cell phones is that they keep very accurate records. All cell phones, even those that are older, keep a call log. Often times, the calls that are made, the calls that are received, and the calls that are missed are recorded. You should be provided with a date and a time. If you can get a hold of your partner's cell phone, do it. Even if you have to grab the phone in the middle of the night and check its history in the bathroom, do so.

When checking your partner's cell phone for suspicious activity, you will want to be on the lookout for names or telephone numbers that you do not recognize. Also, look for constant calls to or from a certain number. If your partner is calling one number multiple times a day or everyday, they may be cheating on you. In addition to checking the call log, also examine picture messages and text messages. These are easier to delete, but many cheaters do not take the simple step needed to do so because they don't believe that they will get caught.

In addition to the cell phone itself, you can also use cell phone bills as method to catch a cheater. This works best if you are married to your partner or if you live with them, as it should be easy for you to gain access to their cell phone. Does your partner's cell phone bill list the phone numbers that are called or the phone numbers that text messages were sent to? If it does, be on the lookout for unknown numbers or repeated communication.

Although not all cell phone bills itemize information, like on the phone calls received or placed, many companies do give you the option of doing so. If you are the one who is responsible for paying the cell phone bill or if you are married, you may be able to change the format of your partner's cell phone bill. A quick call or email to the cell phone company should be enough to catch your cheating partner the next time that the phone bill arrives.

The Pros And Cons Of Hiring A Private Investigator To Catch A Cheating Spouse

2009-05-01T08:02:00.000-07:00

Do you think that your spouse is cheating on you? If you do, you may be looking for proof. After all, if marriage and children are involved, divorce may be what you are thinking. If that is the case, you should first find proof. To do so, you may want to hire a private investigator to help you prove that your husband or wife is cheating on you.

As for what a private investigator does, you will find that their actions will vary. Different investigators handle their cases differently. For example, you may receive direct, one-on-one service from the investigator that you hire or you may end up working with one of their close associates. Either way, your spouse will likely be followed. Their behavior may be documented in pictures or videos. A private investigator may also examine your computer or your phone records.

Before deciding to use the services of a private investigator, it is first important to know that there are a number of pros and cons to doing so. One of those pros or plus sides is that you have solid proof. This is important if you are looking to get a divorce. If you want or need to receive support or alimony payments, you need to have proof that your husband or wife was cheating on you. There is no better proof than professional videos and pictures taken by an experienced and certified private investigator.

Another pro or plus side to hiring the services of a private investigator is that you do not have to do the work yourself. Tracking a cheating spouse can be easy, but it can also be very difficult. Some cheaters go through great lengths to ensure that they do not get caught. You may essentially be sent on a wild goose chase. On the other hand, many private investigators already know where to look, what behavior changes to look for, as well as what traps to not fall for.

Perhaps, the greatest benefit of using the services of a private investigator is that you do not have to see the act being committed yourself. Yes, you will still likely get video footage and pictures of your spouse cheating, but that is much different than seeing the act with your own eyes. In fact, you don't even have to look at the documentation your private investigator provides you with. Well-known and reputable private investigators do not lie. Take the proof and pass it on to your divorce attorney.

Although there are a number of pros or plus sides to using a private investigator to help you catch your cheating spouse, there are also a number of cons or downsides to doing so as well. One of those being the cost. When hiring a private investigator, it is important for you to use your best judgment. Spend as little money as possible, but make sure that you hire an individual who is trustworthy and who has a good reputation. In this situation, quality is more than worth the extra cost.

In keeping with costs, it is also important to take time into consideration. There are some men who cheat on a daily or weekly basis, while others only do so on occasion. It will honestly all depend on your spouse. Your private investigator may follow your husband or wife for weeks before they find any concrete proof that your spouse is cheating. Despite getting proof in the end, this time period may be costly and agonizing for you.

Since there are a number of pros and cons to catching a cheating spouse with the assistance of a private investigator, you are urged to examine your own personal wants and needs. Do you want proof that your spouse is cheating on you? Do you want proper and professional documentation that can be used in divorce proceedings? If so, a private investigator is worth the look.

How To Catch An Unfaithful Mate In This Digital Age

2009-03-26T02:24:00.000-07:00

As a retired TV newsman, I am constantly amazed at how much easier it is to communicate with people these days. There is high-speed Internet connections (wireless & otherwise), Cellphones, texting, BlueTooth, Blackberry's, and the list goes on.

We can talk at the touch of a button, across cities, countries, the entire world. It all makes for cheating on a mate even easier than ever. But there are ways to find the truth.

Using these digital protocols to be unfaithful is almost instant, fairly cheap and, most important to the cheater, completely private and hidden. Or, so they think.

Advancements in digital communication are, on the whole, a great thing when used to improve our daily lives. On the downside, cheating husbands, wives (or, for that matter, girlfriends or boyfriends) can communicate with their private lovers away from the prying eyes and ears of their trusting partners. It happens every minute of every day across the world. Digital technology knows no national borders. Thousands upon thousands of text messages are sent by disloyal men and women to those they're sleeping with out of the sight of their partners.

In my day, the only way a guy or girl could arrange a clandestine meeting would be over a hard-line (either a house phone or a pay phone). The cheater was forced to make risky calls from the home of their unsuspecting spouses, or secretly take a trip to a nearby pay phone and do it from there. Both of these methods of communication could often be spotted by the betrayed party quite easily.

Fast forward to now. It's now a cinch for a cheater to send messages to their secret lovers from work, a locked bathroom, even from under the bed covers while their current, faithful partner sleeps quietly, and, 100% unaware of what’s going on just 6 inches away from them.

It’s true; things are easier for cheaters these days…but not totally easy. Just as all others kinds of cheats - be it a card shark, a con man or a computer hacker - leave signs of their dishonesty behind, so do disloyal partners. And looking for the right signs, in the right places, is the absolute best way of knowing for sure if you can trust your partner.

You know now how easy it is for cheaters to communicate with their secret partners using digital communication but what are the signs, the indications, the clues of this kind of activity so you can be sure? This is risky business that demands absolute proof, not innuendo or paranoia on your part. Before you begin, you must ask yourself if you are really ready to know the truth and ready to handle the heart break. Or, are you willing to do what I recommend, that is, do everything in your power to save your relationship. This is tough stuff. It will take patience and the ability to keep emotions under control.

With that caution, let's take a look at some quick tips:

1. Computers offer cheaters a multitude of communication methods, including: email, instant messenger programs, chat rooms and forums. Although it can be difficult to tell what your partner is doing on line, without actually looking over their shoulder (not a good idea!), there are indications you can look for more that keep your investigation hidden.

Does your mate spend an increased amount of time at the computer for no apparent reason, perhaps when you're in bed or before you get up? Is your partner quickly turning off the computer monitor or turning it away from you when you enter the room?

Also, try checking the Internet browsing history on the computer your partner uses most often. Sometimes there are web pages, chat room locations or other tracks that will reveal if your partner has been taking part in Internet infidelity. At times, you may find that the browser history has been freshly deleted - this, as you can imagine, is equally suspicious.

There is also software programs you can buy and load on to the computer that will track Internet activity. Many parents find such software to be an effective tool to keep track of their child's Internet activity and they work under the radar.

2. As mentioned earlier, mobile/cellular phones make quick and private communication easy. If you feel comfortable doing so, checking your partner's phone's call history. Their address book and text message archive can provide you with a wealth of telling information. Bear in mind, though, that cheating partner's - in an effort to remain unfaithful - often keep their phones on their person most of the time. If your partner used to leave their phone lying around, but now never seems to do so, you must ask yourself why.

3. Last but not least, don't forget or ignore the "old" style methods of cheater communication. Many cheaters still use house phones to call their secret lovers. Check your itemized phone bill for calls to local numbers you don't recognize and that are not in your phone book. Also, pay attention to how your partner reacts when you walk into the room when they're on the phone. It's difficult to mask panic and surprise when the partner you're cheating on walks into the room while you're chatting to your secret significant other. Quick hang-ups could be a sign your partner's being disloyal over the phone and, perhaps, elsewhere.

By keeping your eyes peeled and ears open, you can exploit the advantages these new methods of communication offer cheaters and, hopefully, discover what's really going on.

By Jim DeSantis

Spots The Signs Of A Cheating Spouse

2009-03-20T02:19:00.000-07:00

Do you suspect that your husband or wife is cheating on you? If you think that your spouse is cheating, you may be looking for confirmation. Before you take steps to start spying on your spouse or before you decide to hire the services of a costly private investigator, read the signs below to see if your spouse may truly be cheating on you.

1 - A Change in Physical Appearance

Men and women who cheat often want to impress or entice the individual they are having inappropriate relations with. When doing so, they often change or improve their appearance. If your spouse starts paying more attention to their weight or buys new clothes, they may be having an affair.

2 - Distance or Lack of Communication

Until you recently started noticing a problem, how was your communication with your spouse? If your spouse has recently stopped talking to you or distanced themselves from you at home, there is a good chance that they may be cheating on you. This is because they may be afraid of making a mistake and talking about their affair or they may already be discussing their problems with someone else.

3 - They Constantly Work Late

Depending on your spouse and his or her career, they really may have to work late. With that said, be on the lookout for changes and use your best judgment. Has your husband or wife all of a sudden started working late? In terms of using your best judgment, know what careers often call for late nights, such as lawyers, doctors, and so forth.

4 - They Spend Too Much Time with Friends

Spending time with friends does not always signal a cheater. In fact, healthy relationships also depend on healthy outside friendships. With that said, be sure to use your best judgment. Look for the appearance of new friends or an increased amount of time. Has your husband or wife gone from spending one night a week with friends to three or more?

5 - You Don't Know Where They Are

When you are married, there is never really any reason why you shouldn't know where your spouse is, especially late at night or for long periods of time. If you do not know, chances are your spouse is cheating. When they arrive home, they better have a good reason for being late or not letting you know where they were.

6 - You Hear Rumors

Many men and women are not careful about cheating. This often involves them telling someone or someone seeing them out on a date. In these types of situations, people often talk. Listen to what you hear. If people are telling you that your spouse is cheating, it might be time to start listening.

7 - No Sex

Has your relationship recently become sex-free or has the sex that you do have decreased in intensity and in frequency. If so, there is a good chance that your spouse is cheating on you. Men and women who get sex elsewhere don't always need to have it again when they return home.

8 - You Are Accused of Cheating

In today's society, cheating is a major concern. If your spouse accuses you of cheating, have you been displaying behavior that may lead them to that conclusion? If you haven't, there is a good chance that they are accusing you of cheating to make themselves feel less guilty.

9 - Hearing the Phrase "We are Just Friends"

The "just friends," phrase is a big sign of a cheater. As with all other friendships, it is important to use your best judgment. If the friend of the opposite sex and are they are a newly acquired friend? If so, something may be up.

10 - A Bad Feeling

Bad feelings are not something that should be easily dismissed. If you have reason to believe that your husband or wife is cheating, they may be. If you do not want to be in a relationship with a cheater, it is important for you to follow your heart. Take additional steps to see if they are truly cheating. These steps may involve hiring a private investigator or spying.

By: Jill Samuel

How to Recognize Signs of Cheating in a Relationship

2009-03-16T02:18:00.001-07:00

It can be a difficult thing to deal with when you suspect your significant other is cheating on you. The betrayal and the idea that someone you care about could cheat on you is enough to make your judgment clouded. It can be hard to figure out what is a sign and what is not a sign. It is a very confusing time and the information below can help you sort it all out.

Do not Make Excuses

Admitting to yourself that you are being cheated on is hard. You probably will try everything to convince yourself that it can not be true. Making excuses for your cheating partner is common. Explaining away problems is much easier than facing the truth.

In order to uncover a cheater, though, you have to face up to what is happening. Learn about the common signs of cheating and pay attention. It is no longer about your emotions. You should not live with a cheating partner because it will be much more hurtful in the end if you let it go.

Look for Signs

You may have to actually look for signs. You want to pay attention to everything. Look for anything new or different. Watch your interactions with your partner and with other people that know you both.

Take notes and keep a journal to help you put everything together. You want to make sure that something is a real sign and having all the evidence in front of your helps.

Know How to Spot a Lie

Lies are the best friend of a cheater. After all they are living a lie. You have to become skilled at recognizing lies and learning how to see through them. You should not only listen but watch when your partner is talking to you. There are many clues that can be picked up just by being attentive.

Body language often shows a person is lying. They may just look uncomfortable if they are not a good liar. They may also show classic signs of lying such as fighting or avoiding eye contact. Visual cues of lying can be anything from stuttering to making up stories.

Catching a lie can be a major breakthrough in catching a cheater.

Recognizing a cheater is not an easy task and you need all the help you can get.

By Kwame ofori

Signs of Cheating Men VS Signs of Cheating Women

2009-03-12T02:09:00.000-07:00

Men and women often display different signs when they cheat. It can be helpful to understand what the other gender does because it may help you to see signs in your significant other. Recognizing the signs of cheating is the first step to resolving the situation.

Gender Differences and Cheating

Both men and women cheat but the signs of cheating tend to be different for each gender. Women are more detail oriented where men tend to make mistakes more often. Men do not usually have the attention to detail that women have. They often let the little pass without realizing that their mate is going to catch them.

Women may find it easier to catch a cheating man than men to catch a cheating woman due to these facts.

Cheating Men

Cheating men will often forget about the little clues they leave, such as phone records. They may also not realize that their wife will expect more money if they say they are working late.

Men do not cover their tracks very well which can make it easier to catch a man cheating. They may also try too hard to cover their tracks which only ends up making them look guilty and tipping off their partner that they are cheating.

Another thing about men is that they do not get as emotional involved so they may see their affair as a physical thing. This can lead to problems when their lover wants more emotion or wants them to leave their spouse. Their lover may actually give them up if they do not give them what they want.

Cheating Women

Women who cheat will pay attention to the little things. She will not tell a lie she can not cover up. Additionally, she usually does get emotionally involved and therefore her lover is not as likely to give her up.

Women have the upper hand in most cases since they control the money of the home, including paying bills. Things like cell phone bills may never be seen by her spouse. There is no cover up needed in that case.

The differences between men and women when they cheat are just like the fundamental differences between men and women. Not everyone is going to follow these criteria, though. Some men may be better at covering their tracks and some women may not be. However, this is a general thing that does apply in most cases.

Cheating is a very delicate subject. It can break a relation so make sure you have hard evidence before you confront. Take action on the information you just read and use all the help offer here.

By Kwame ofori

The Secret Test: How To Predict If She Will Eventually Cheat On You

2009-03-01T07:01:00.000-08:00

I'm going to get straight to the point - just do me a favor and take these 2 cheating-lover characteristics seriously, because no one is talking about them (no one)...

So make sure you never forget them because they will apply to your current, past and future female partner. (Again I'm going to be brief.)

And the reason why they're so valuable is because they reveal whether a woman is likely to cheat --- even if she doesn't realize it --- even if she is good-natured with no intention of ever cheating. But as you know many women cheat and end up regretting it.

So in other words, she loves her current man, but something strange happens.
So in other words, she thinks he is the greatest, but something strange happens.
So in other words, she thinks he is her soul mate! but something strange happens.

Here are the 2 Deadly Characteristics that secretly determines whether a woman will eventually cheat on you. (even if she doesn't realize it)

Let's get to the point:

1. Cheating Lover Characteristic #1: She has very little will power - I know this may seem obvious, but many women are good natured, but in certain situations she just doesn't have the mental strength.

In other words, it's just like a large woman who wants to lose weight. She doesn't want to over-eat, it's just hard for her to hold back. Basically if there is an urge, she'll act on it - regardless of what her conscious intentions are.

And this will vary depending on her Level of Will Power. So on a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being very strong-willed) try to determine your female partner's will power level.

2. Cheating Lover Characteristic #2: She can be easily persuaded be others (gullible / naive) - At first glance, it may seem like this characteristic is the same as the first one, but it's not.

The first one has to do with a lack of self-control, and this one deals with how easily her perception can be changed by others. For example I know a woman who gets up at 5:00 AM every morning and jogs for 5 miles - even on days when she's just not up to it.

And if she walked into the local convenient store to get some water she could glide past the chocolate donut case with no problem - even though her bodily urges are screaming at her to take buy one.

BUT - if the donut man told her that those were magic donuts that would make her run faster and lose an instant 5 pounds, she'd believe him in a heartbeat!

Do you see the difference?

So I want you to think about her Level of "Gullible-ness".
On a scale of 1 to 10 (10 being hard to convince), try to determine her "Gullible-ness" Level.

It's that simple.

Some women have will power.
Some women do not have will power.

Some women do not show signs of being gullible.
Some women do show signs of being gullible.

There are actually 2 more characteristics that are more frightening. Hopefully, your
female partner has will power. And hopefully she hasn't shown signs of being gullible.

By CR James

Internet Affairs? Catch Your Spouse Cheating Online

2009-02-22T05:41:00.000-08:00

Do you have that funny feeling that something fishy is going on? Maybe you can't put your finger on it but things in your relationship just don't seem right. You have a suspicion that your spouse is cheating but you keep telling yourself it's your imaginations. We'll call this stage one.

In stage one you have suspicions but you're in denial. You don't have proof and you're still not yet in the frame of mind to actually get the proof. You're not in the frame of mind to find out if your spouse is cheating.

In stage two you are ready to face the truth. You want the facts and are ready to let the chips fall where they may. By the time you arrive at stage two your cheating spouse has grown comfortable in their infidelity and they are letting more and more clues slip out. At stage two you are ready catch your spouse cheating.

Stage three: How to catch a cheating spouse? In stage three you begin researching online for to how to catch a cheating spouse. In fact that's probably how you found this article. You went online on the Internet to get advice on how to catch your spouse cheating. You're first instinct to reach out to the internet for help was correct. The best way to begin any task is to research it. Interestingly enough I would bet that when your spouse first got the idea to cheat they also went to the internet first. To find a date!

Stage four:Taking back control over your life, protecting your family and your future from the dangers of a spouse bringing third parties into your relationship.

When beginning an infidelity investigation the quickest easiest and most inexpensive way to begin is an "Online Infidelity Investigation". An online infidelity investigation is where you take your spouses email address and submit it to an online investigator. The investigator will return a list of all the online dating services that our spouses email address is registered on. This will reveal all the online dating sites or social networking sites your spouse is using behind your back.

You want to see if your spouse is cheating online but with an online infidelity investigation you may also be able to find out who they are cheating with and how serous the situation may be.
You may locate them on a site with extreme sexual fetishes that are completely opposed to the standards and morals you uphold. Your spouse's choice in a dating site may reveal secrets about them that you never knew. You may locate them on a homosexual site. It could also reveal habits like drinking, drugs or gambling that they have kept secret from you.

If you came to this article asking yourself "how to catch a cheater?". Then you are ready to take the first step and that would be an online infidelity investigation. There are a few professional investigators on the Internet that offer this type of state of the art online investigation and you should begin to your get your life back by taking this first step to catch a cheating spouse online.
Before hiring a private investigator be sure to heck him out. Run a Google search. See if he is recognized by his peers as an expert in online infidelity investigations.

This is a very unique and new form of online investigation and not every investigator will be qualified so in a case like this it's important to do some online research before hiring.

By Ed Opperman

Don't Live In The Dark, Catch That Cheating Spouse

2009-02-12T06:10:00.000-08:00

If you have your suspicions that your partner is cheating don't let it eat away at you or try and push your fears to the back of your mind, prove it once and for all and set your mind at rest or catch that cheating spouse.

Nobody deserves to be cheated on, no matter what state your marriage is in and if you believe your partner is having an affair now is the time to check it out and do a little investigation just to be sure.

Don't discuss your suspicions with your partner, if you are right you will just put them on their guard and if you're wrong you will create an unnecessary rift between you which may prove hard to recover from.

Take care when you start checking up on what they are doing. Don't do or say anything that makes it blindingly obvious that you suspect your spouse of cheating on you.

Start by looking for the obvious things such as a change in the way your partner dresses, a sudden desire to look good, a change in work patterns, an unusual interest in the gym, secrecy over phone calls or emails, a loss of intimacy in your marriage, lack of sexual interest or distance between you that never used to exist.

Cheating spouses often look and act guilty, give a general feeling that something isn't right. They try and avoid meaningful conversations, keep everything at a general and non intimate level. One thing for sure is that at some point they usually slip up, let something slip and if you have your suspicions you have to bide your time and get the proof before tackling that cheating spouse.

Start checking things that you have always had regular access to such as bank or credit card statements. If your spouse suddenly starts guarding their mobile or deleting their emails just ask a totally innocent question as too why the sudden secrecy.

Don't be afraid to ask questions, to show interest in their day, just keep on asking and if they start to appear uncomfortable, just keep your cool and ask some more. Nothing direct, nothing accusing and don't antagonise just slowly chip away until you get the proof that you need.

If your spouse is lying it's usually quite obvious, they will struggle to look you in the eye, become uncomfortable with quite reasonable and normal and discussions about their day and will make up stories, try and change the topic of conversation or find and excuse to go and do something else.

When your partner feels the sudden need to go out, try and find a reason to accompany them. If they squirm and come up with a reason that they need to go on their own push the issue, not too much when you first try the technique but just enough to see if they become more uncomfortable.

Always, remember what excuse you have been given and find a way to mention the activity in a subsequent conversation. It is a good sign that something is wrong when your spouse forgets what they were supposed to have been doing.

When your partner isn't going to be around for some time, check their clothes and personal belongings for notes or scribbled numbers. Try any numbers you find and see who answers. If you can check their mobile without raising suspicions go for it and if your partner says they are working late try and find a good excuse to have to ring them.

If you feel you've found enough to heighten your suspicions follow your spouse, check to see who they are meeting, if you have a reasonable excuse for being in the same area perhaps bump into them and see how they react.

Continue with your subtle investigations, without raising any suspicions until you have solid evidence. Don't ever show your hand, make any accusations or confront your partner until you have the proof. Never loose focus, remember what you have set out to do, catch the cheating spouse and then confront them with the hard evidence.

By Terry Ross

40 Things You Can Learn About a Guy in 10 Minutes

2009-01-28T07:10:00.000-08:00

You don't have to date a guy for six months to get the lowdown on who he really is. With the right clues, you can size him up in 10 minutes. "A man's actions -- especially the ones you see in unguarded moments when he's not going out of his way to try to impress you (or doesn't realize you're watching) -- can speak volumes about his character and personality traits," says Rita Benasutti, PhD, a psychotherapist who specializes in couples' issues. To help you decode a guy you've just started seeing, Cosmo called on a team of experts to tell you how to assess his actions and tap into his boyfriend potential, pronto.

His Favorite Sport

"Solo sportsmen, like runners and swimmers, 1 savor their independence and relish spending a lot of time alone," says relationship-skills coach Steve Nakamoto, author of "Men Are Like Fish: What Every Woman Needs to Know About Catching a Man." Men who are fans of mainstream team sports, like football, basketball, and baseball, 2 tend to be competitive -- on the field and in all aspects of their life -- and they like to hang with their entourage. As for the guy who's just not into sports at all, 3 "he's an independent thinker, usually on the sensitive side."

How Long He's Been Hanging With His Friends

A guy who has been friends with the same posse since he was 10 years old can certainly claim 4 loyalty as one of his strong suits. But "you better like what you see, because he's probably not great with change," says dating coach Liz H. Kelly, author of "Smart Man Hunting." "And be patient, because it will take a while for you to win his trust." If your date has buddies from all areas of his life -- i.e., college, the gym, work -- don't be afraid to drag him to your cousin's wedding. 5 "He has no problem schmoozing strangers and adapts to new situations easily."

Credit vs. Cash

A guy who likes to flash his plastic 6 craves status. "He may be ambitious and confident. He'll reach his financial goals," says Rob Ronin, PsyD, a licensed clinical psychologist and registered financial consultant. "If he always pays in cash, 7 he's self-sufficient and independent," which might make him a difficult dude to corner. And if his wallet is dry? 8 Here's a guy who's dependent on others to take care of him.

His Bad Habits

Gambling men 9 are risk-takers, which can make them a lot of fun. "But their over-the-top optimism that they'll come out ahead makes it difficult for them to face reality," says Mitchell Parks, MD, assistant professor of psychiatry at Vanderbilt University, in Nashville. "Hard-core smokers 10 tend to be anxious," says Dr. Parks, so it can be hard to pin them down for couple-time. And if he's a boozer, 11 he could be hiding his insecurity behind his buzz.

His Communication Style

When your date opts to email you -- rather than call -- 12 he could be a hard nut to crack. "The fact that he chooses a communication method that allows him to edit what he says signals that he might not want to show his true self," says Jeff Bryson, PhD, professor of psychology at San Diego State University. An IM addict 13 craves your nonstop attention and needs that instant assurance that you're there for him. And the phone fan? 14 He might be a little old-fashioned and likes to do things by the book. But, according to Bryson, "he's not afraid of intimacy."

The Clothes You Wear That He Prefers

If your fave T-shirt and jeans or a cute little sundress do more for him than your slinky black number, 15 you're dating an earthy, laid-back guy who likes equally laid-back, low-maintenance chicks. A man who's wowed by a woman who likes to get dolled up in high-end designer duds 16 places a high priority on prestige. "He'll probably make a lot of money, but it also might play too important a role in his life," says Los Angeles clinical psychologist Nancy Irwin, PsyD. And a guy who wants a Carmen Electra-sensual girl on his arm 17 is looking for an ego boost. "He places a lot of value on being admired and envied."

How He Deals With Traffic

If he constantly weaves in and out of cars, tailgates slowpokes, and glares at other drivers, 18 "it's pretty clear that he has a problem with aggression," says Leon James, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Hawaii and author of "Road Rage and Aggressive Driving." While a forceful personality might take him far in the workplace, it could be difficult to deal with this argumentative guy in a relationship. If he's able to exude Zen-like calm when stuck in gridlock, 19 "he's likely to have more self-control."

What He Orders in a Restaurant

A meat-and-potatoes-type guy 20 is usually steady and dependable, says image coach Dianne Daniels, author of "Polish and Presence: 31 Days to a New Image." "But he's also a little unadventurous." If your date goes for exotic dishes, 21 "you're with someone who makes spontaneity a priority and could easily get bored with the status quo."

Neat Freak or Messy Man

A guy who puts his dirty socks in the hamper is one thing; a guy who color-codes them in his drawer is something else. 22 "This man is way too fastidious to have fun," explains Daniels, "and he'll expect you to be just as neat." A mildly messy man 23 is looser and more open-minded. But if the inside of his shower has never seen a scrub brush, 24 he may be immature or just plain lazy.

Favorite TV Shows

Take note if he parks himself in front of one sitcom after another. 25 "Here's a guy who uses humor to defuse stress," says TV producer Hedda Muskat, author of "Dating Confidential: A Single's Guide to a Fun, Flirtatious and Possibly Meaningful Social Life." This can be a good thing, because he won't hold a grudge against you or lose his cool. But it also might be hard to get into a serious conversation with him, which can be frustrating. "The more you try to discuss something important, the more evasive he will become," says Muskat. A couch sleuth who's fascinated by CSI-type shows, on the other hand, 26 is analytical and thoughtful. "He prides himself on his problem-solving abilities and will be there for you when you need support," says Muskat.

His Birth Order

"The oldest child 27 is usually a responsible, take-charge kind of guy," says Nancy Fagan, author of "Desirable Men." If your babe is the baby of his brood, 28 "he's likely to be creative and a little rebellious." As for a middle man: 29 "He's a sensitive soul who needs loads of attention."

How He Approaches PDAs

When you're out in public and he's all over you like a rash, 30 "he's either trying to show you off or marking his territory, both of which are signs of insecurity," says Nakamoto. A guy who's allergic to body contact in public is 31 unsure about his feelings for you or your feelings for him. "PDAs are statements of togetherness," says Nakamoto. "If he has doubts, he'll keep his distance physically."

Whether He Always Drives or Wants You To

"A guy who doesn't automatically assume driving rights 32 is likely to let you steer the relationship at least some of the time," says Kelly. A man who hogs the wheel -- even in your car -- 33 is sweetly old-fashioned at best and, at worst, could be a control freak.

The Guy's Grooming MO

A guy who checks out his reflection in every store window you pass is obviously vain. But, interestingly, 34 it's also a sign of a dude who's intent on succeeding. "Presentation is everything to this kind of man," says Sheenah Hankin, PhD, author of "Complete Confidence." "He sees it as a measure of his self-respect and success." 35 The low-key, less conceited guy might be less ambitious, "but he's easier to connect with emotionally because he's not as superficial," says Hankin. "What counts on the inside matters more to him."

If He Looks You in the Eye

"A man who doesn't make eye contact during conversation 36 may not be trustworthy," says speech coach Diane DiResta, author of "Knockout Presentations." "Meanwhile, if his eyes bore into yours as he's talking, 37 he might be trying to intimidate you." But a smoldering gaze -- you know what that looks like -- 38 means he's immensely fond of you.

His Speaking Style

If your man moves his mouth a mile a minute, 39 you're with a spontaneous, high-energy guy who may be a little too self-absorbed. "Fast talkers get so wrapped up in making a good impression that they don't pay attention to their audience," says DiResta. Slow talkers 40 typically play it safe. "The way they deliberate every word before it comes out of their mouth is indicative of how they approach life: They look before they leap." So although you shouldn't expect a lot of surprises, at least you'll know he means what he says.

Things You'll Only Learn With Time

Your speedy profiling skills won't reveal these tidbits from psychotherapist Katherine Woodward Thomas, author of "Calling in 'The One'."

How loyal he'll be: Wait and see if you're shown the same allegiance as his buds are.

If he's a man of his word: Will he really keep those promises he made to you early on?

His little quirks: Time reveals the small details that really make a person tick.

If his parents' split haunts him: His broken home may have issued him some big-time emotional baggage.

By Stephanie Booth for Cosmopolitan
Photo: iStockphoto.com/©Anna Bryukhanova

The 3 A's. A Surefire Way To Catch A Cheating Spouse

2009-01-21T05:04:00.000-08:00

You're convinced that your spouse is cheating. But how do you know? You can sense that they're behaving differently but you just can't put your finger on it. Something just doesn't feel right and your instinct tells you that something has changed but yet you still have a doubt as everything appears to be normal on the surface but your intuition is alerting you that all is not what it seems. Maybe you don't want to know the truth, maybe you're afraid of what you might find out, or maybe you're just imagining it but yet there's still that strange feeling when you get that kiss goodbye in the morning that you don't know what your spouse is up to for the rest of the day.

The 3 A's is a surefire way to know if you have a cheating spouse and can help you to come to terms with the fact that you have an issue to be dealt with and you can make the decision that you need to take control of the situation and get answers. You can be assured that even if your spouse is a pathological liar they will still exhibit these tell tale signs that they are up to no good.

1. Appearance.

When your spouse suddenly changes their appearance and takes a lot more effort in how they look this can often be the first signal to you that something has changed. The logic being this is simple, when a person is about to start or has started an affair then just like many birds the want to display their best plumage. They have a new found confidence and they believe that every member of the opposite sex finds them attractive so they must put on their best show. A new interest in fashion, like changing one's wardrobe or new found interest in beauty treatments or getting a new hairstyle can be a cheating spouse's first giveaway sign that their mental pattern has shifted.

2. Attention.

When you find that your partner is making more effort to be attentive and you feel overwhelmed with their sudden change of libido then this can be another indication that things are not what they appear to be. You may have thought the opposite but no! A cheating spouse is a clever little creature and their increased libido serves two purposes. One it's a reaction to the fact that they are likely to be have more stimulating sex elsewhere and therefore their libido goes haywire and they have to expel it somewhere. But, another reason is to throw you off the sent. By being very amorous with you they believe that you wont suspect, or want to suspect that they have anything illicit to hide. So beware of sudden changes in the way they act like bunches of flowers out of the blue, and if you find yourself getting down and dirty on the kitchen table then not only should the microwave have alarm bells ringing.

3. Aggressiveness.

This seems to contradict number 2 but it goes hand in hand with it really. Because, at this stage you know that something is different because you are now with a very amorous, well dressed, sweet smelling person who is always smiling so you decide to question this transformation. This is when the cheating spouse becomes aggressive in their own defense. They will become more aggressive than normal and will fly off the handle when you challenge them about the receipt for champagne that you found when you were accidentally looking in their jacket pocket. The aggression can be the greatest epic drama you will encounter or in it's worse case turn violent. The aggression is just another way to try and confuse you and make you wonder whether or not you're going mad.

So if your partner displays the 3 A's then you can be confident that the time has come to get the answers that you are entitled to and call their bluff once and for all, and that is why there a total industry devoted to catching cheating spouses.

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4 Common Signs He is Cheating - Educate yourself on Unfaithful Behavior

2009-01-07T16:16:00.000-08:00

• Your sex life has greatly decreased, or is now non-existent. This would be hard to tell if your man has never been one to have sex a lot, but on the other hand, if you two are used to being intimate almost daily, the reduction would be noticeable. Make sure there is no other reason for his lack of wanting you, such as stress, new job, or money problems.

He starts becoming very secretive about things. He refuses to talk about where he's been, or he lies about working late or being out with the boys. He may get defensive or just clam up when you try to ask his whereabouts, or you have caught him lying about being somewhere when you know for a fact he wasn't.

His phone habits become a bit unusual. This may mean he's placing or receiving more calls, especially late night ones. If he answers the phone in front of you, then immediately leaves the room, it may be a woman on the other end of the line. The same is true for text messaging. If he keeps a close guard on his phone, and is hesitant about letting you use it, it's safe to assume something is up.

If he is in an office position, he may begin to talk about his new secretary...a lot. It would be normal for someone to mention their secretary in passing, especially when chatting about work, but if he has nothing to exceptionally good things to say about her or is talking about her in a way that sounds they have more than a "boss-secretary" relationship, you may want to be concerned.

As you can see, there are many small things you can begin to look for if you think he is cheating. Some of this behavior can often be mistaken for unfaithfulness, when in reality; your man is trying to put together a surprise for you, or is just under a lot of stress. This is why it's important to assess the entire situation before you make the call this he is cheating.

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4 Common Signs He is Cheating - Educate yourself on Unfaithful Behavior

2008-12-06T19:58:00.000-08:00

Are you beginning to suspect that your significant other is cheating on you? Before you act on your emotions, be sure you have evidence that supports your claims. More often than not, your gut feeling is right. However, in the chance that you are incorrect about your accusations, it’s important to be sure of your boyfriend or husband’s unfaithfulness before you directly confront them about it. Below are some warning signs that will eventually come to light if he is cheating.

• Your sex life has greatly decreased, or is now non-existent. This would be hard to tell if your man has never been one to have sex a lot, but on the other hand, if you two are used to being intimate almost daily, the reduction would be noticeable. Make sure there is no other reason for his lack of wanting you, such as stress, new job, or money problems.

• He starts becoming very secretive about things. He refuses to talk about where he’s been, or he lies about working late or being out with the boys. He may get defensive or just clam up when you try to ask his whereabouts, or you have caught him lying about being somewhere when you know for a fact he wasn’t.

• His phone habits become a bit unusual. This may mean he’s placing or receiving more calls, especially late night ones. If he answers the phone in front of you, then immediately leaves the room, it may be a woman on the other end of the line. The same is true for text messaging. If he keeps a close guard on his phone, and is hesitant about letting you use it, it’s safe to assume something is up.

• If he is in an office position, he may begin to talk about his new secretary...a lot. It would be normal for someone to mention their secretary in passing, especially when chatting about work, but if he has nothing to exceptionally good things to say about her or is talking about her in a way that sounds they have more than a “boss-secretary” relationship, you may want to be concerned.

As you can see, there are many small things you can begin to look for if you think he is cheating. Some of this behavior can often be mistaken for unfaithfulness, when in reality; your man is trying to put together a surprise for you, or is just under a lot of stress. This is why it’s important to assess the entire situation before you make the call this he is cheating.

Austin Odeon

10 Signs Of A Cheating Spouse

2008-11-23T18:35:00.000-08:00

Do you suspect that your husband or wife is cheating on you? If you think that your spouse is cheating, you may be looking for confirmation. Before you take steps to start spying on your spouse or before you decide to hire the services of a costly private investigator, read the signs below to see if your spouse may truly be cheating on you.

1 - A Change in Physical Appearance

Men and women who cheat often want to impress or entice the individual they are having inappropriate relations with. When doing so, they often change or improve their appearance. If your spouse starts paying more attention to their weight or buys new clothes, they may be having an affair.

2 - Distance or Lack of Communication

Until you recently started noticing a problem, how was your communication with your spouse? If your spouse has recently stopped talking to you or distanced themselves from you at home, there is a good chance that they may be cheating on you. This is because they may be afraid of making a mistake and talking about their affair or they may already be discussing their problems with someone else.

3 - They Constantly Work Late

Depending on your spouse and his or her career, they really may have to work late. With that said, be on the lookout for changes and use your best judgment. Has your husband or wife all of a sudden started working late? In terms of using your best judgment, know what careers often call for late nights, such as lawyers, doctors, and so forth.

4 - They Spend Too Much Time with Friends

Spending time with friends does not always signal a cheater. In fact, healthy relationships also depend on healthy outside friendships. With that said, be sure to use your best judgment. Look for the appearance of new friends or an increased amount of time. Has your husband or wife gone from spending one night a week with friends to three or more?

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